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Nombres han sido cambiados para proteger a los inocentes y los culpables de repuesto en caso de difamacion.


Wednesday, March 25, 2009

M on: Soulmates??? My Epiphany

A man was just waking up from anaesthesia after surgery, and his wife was sitting by his side. His eyes fluttered open and he said, "You're beautiful." Then he fell asleep again. His wife had never heard him say that, so she stayed by his side. A few minutes later, his eyes fluttered open and he said, "You're cute!" The wife was disappointed because instead of "beautiful," it was now "cute." She said, "What happened to 'beautiful'?" The man replied, "The drugs are wearing off!"

I filled the 100 things questionnaire on facebook and one question got me thinking
Question: would you want a Relationship or a Hook up?
My answer: I want the security of a relationship and the passion of a hookup.

in answering that question i got a eureka moment. i had just answered the question Danny Bagucci asked in his post on "soulmates" as well as questions we all ask ourselves;

What differentiates the Relationship from the hookup?
Why can't there be a mix match of both?
Why do "open" relationships last longer?
Why do relationships get boring?
Why does the spark die?

O in his cynical manner compared relationships between humans to the attention span kids have for new toys; directly proportional to the newness of the toy. Typical O Smargd would say but is he really being cynical or is there an underlying truth. People say they fall in and out of love i think they pretty much get bored. I read on one of the cybertrails left by Doug that a difference between men and women is that women get married thinking the man will change while men do it thinking the woman wont change.A misconception that i myself have fallen victim of thank God we didn't get married. Back to my epiphany and the myriad of questions;

I like to refer to myself
as a "married bachelor" with all my attention, all 150% of it devoted to my children (my horses) but i figure that is because i haven't met that person yet, the one person who even 2 years after being together, we will still be kicking it like the first day we kissed, held hands or had sex.

I'm looking for the security that comes with a relationship along with all the passion that comes with that steamy one night stand. I hope it's safe to assume that it's the same thing all the non-commital seemingly rational folks out there are searching for.

There are 6.7 billion people on earth and you have one soulmate. it's next to impossible to find him or her but the fact is;

Your soulmate does exist and is out there so stop groping in the dark and at least try and find that person. I'm gonna try.

So there goes my epiphany, call it the gospel of saint M lol

MY says this post has inspired him to start shooting again ( kryptonite made him drop his camera for nearly one year now) and I'm so so happy for him. 5 of his photos are getting published this year in a photo book to be sold in over 30 countries. I hope this does something for you.

from me to you


  1. WOW.. Thansk for the shout out... Brilliant conncept you've got here with the Triumvirate.... Will def stop by for more from them....

  2. no problemo Danny B. we're new here so do help spread the word.


  3. this is deeeep mahn...I definitely like...will be back fo mo....

  4. Thanks Chari, looking to have you around.

  5. ok, i really should come here more often. I know that its possible to be in a relationship and have the thrills of a hookup.

  6. the two go parri-passu, i will not settle for less!

  7. oh, and congrats on the pictures! wish we could get a sneak peek.

    love to ur children...lol


    i want to take up horseriding, where do i go? seriously. always liked it. but lag horses all look sickly to me, so...

    dont worry, u are not being stalked, not as long as O is a part of this trium...wtv!

  8. @ Bumight: I really wanna be you right now :D

    @ Smargd: The horses at the beach are sickly underfed local hausa horses. The Argies ( Argentine Criollos at the Lagos polo club outnumber the players and social members 3-1 and they are the best you can get so therefore querida Lagos Polo Club would be an ideal place to start. lemme know i might be able to hook you up. O doesn't really bite unless threatened.

  9. I have found you worthy enough of a MeMe- you are hereby harassed into this by accepting the Scrap Honest Award, or is it Honest Scrap Award.

    Off to read....

  10. We gracefully accept the award and nominate O to perform out civic duty.

  11. Ok, So I agree with your theories, and I think the more insight we have about what we want, the closer we are to getting it.
    I don't want to stop be the hotness I am to the Mister just because he put a ring on my finger- after all that's the reason he came after me in the 1st place, why lose it?

    Pictures....I like.....any chance we can admire?

  12. Senora Sirius,
    I as well agree totally with my man M reading his epiphany as he rightly said put a ray of light at the end of my tunnel.

    Unfortunately, the pieces he mentioned are under a non release clause till the book is published on October 1 this year but i will put the next photo i take here.


  13. oh no u dont. i know cos i was in one for five years.

  14. Hmmm! First time here. Finally! Liking what I see/read.
    Not a bad concept o: dis security and passion thing. But like u say: what are d odds in a multitude of 6.7mil? I tire o!

    *searching for Cerberus' head on google for u. Surprised dat u aint using dat*

  15. Oh wow this definitely put a smile on my face. I totally agree with M. I guess they have to work at it n be willing to compromise or try new things to keep the flame going. This is coming from someone who gets easily easily bored! But I guess he/she must be worth the effort.

    Always love ur blogs! simply bellissimo!

  16. i've been trying to leave a comment here for hours..i hope it works this time!

  17. finally!

    lol @ the joke!

    ur epiphany was on point..

    i havent had a relationship that lasted more than a year..im hoping my present one will be different..

    btw, i think horses r the most beautiful animals!

  18. @ Buttercup: May this relationship give you your heart's desires

    @Eve: Gracias carino, you hit the nail on the head

    @FBA: we bin don dey use am for here before but apparently maybe we commot am by mistake.

    @ Bumight: what happened?

  19. Interesting. Frankly I'm not quite certain about the soul mate though. What happens if she dies before you find her. Life does happen you know? I think I'm going with Afrobabe on this one

  20. I like the sensitivity of your epiphany...the security of a relationship with the passion of a hookup. I think that's what a lot of people look for, some without realizing. On the issue of soulmates, I disagree. I have always believed that we have more than one soulmate for each and every period of our lives. If we didn't we'd be screwed if we never got to meet them, or as doug said, if they died etc. I might be wrong though but I am quite convinced about that.


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