M on: Soulmates??? My Epiphany

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A man was just waking up from anaesthesia after surgery, and his wife was sitting by his side. His eyes fluttered open and he said, "You're beautiful." Then he fell asleep again. His wife had never heard him say that, so she stayed by his side. A few minutes later, his eyes fluttered open and he said, "You're cute!" The wife was disappointed because instead of "beautiful," it was now "cute." She said, "What happened to 'beautiful'?" The man replied, "The drugs are wearing off!"
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I filled the 100 things questionnaire on facebook and one question got me thinking
Question: would you want a Relationship or a Hook up?
My answer: I want the security of a relationship and the passion of a hookup.

in answering that question i got a eureka moment. i had just answered the question Danny Bagucci asked in his post on "soulmates" as well as questions we all ask ourselves;

What differentiates the Relationship from the hookup?
Why can't there be a mix match of both?
Why do "open" relationships last longer?
Why do relationships get boring?
Why does the spark die?

O in his cynical manner compared relationships between humans to the attention span kids have for new toys; directly proportional to the newness of the toy. Typical O Smargd would say but is he really being cynical or is there an underlying truth. People say they fall in and out of love i think they pretty much get bored. I read on one of the cybertrails left by Doug that a difference between men and women is that women get married thinking the man will change while men do it thinking the woman wont change.A misconception that i myself have fallen victim of thank God we didn't get married. Back to my epiphany and the myriad of questions;

I like to refer to myself as a "married bachelor" with all my attention, all 150% of it devoted to my children (my horses) but i figure that is because i haven't met that person yet, the one person who even 2 years after being together, we will still be kicking it like the first day we kissed, held hands or had sex.

I'm looking for the security that comes with a relationship along with all the passion that comes with that steamy one night stand. I hope it's safe to assume that it's the same thing all the non-commital seemingly rational folks out there are searching for.

There are 6.7 billion people on earth and you have one soulmate. it's next to impossible to find him or her but the fact is;

Your soulmate does exist and is out there so stop groping in the dark and at least try and find that person. I'm gonna try.

So there goes my epiphany, call it the gospel of saint M lol

MY says this post has inspired him to start shooting again ( kryptonite made him drop his camera for nearly one year now) and I'm so so happy for him. 5 of his photos are getting published this year in a photo book to be sold in over 30 countries. I hope this does something for you.

from me to you
M